The Big O: What You Need To Know About Sexual Frustration and Overall Happiness

Monday, March 24, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships


The functioning of our bodies, especially our sexual responsiveness, is tied directly to our autonomic nervous system. The hormones produced in response to this system can trigger panic or orgasmic bliss. But which one you get may depend on your past experiences and how much satisfaction you've been enjoying.

"But you said size doesn't matter!"

So, here's the quick and dirty (heh): hormones like oxytocin are necessary for sexual functioning, from progression of labor to the Big O. Oxytocin is responsible for bonding, both with children and with partners, which may be one reason that having a lot of sex tends to restore connections between partners, increase attachment and decrease insecurities1. Enough oxytocin pushes us over the edge into orgasm....  continue reading

The Double-Edged Sword: Forethought, Reasoning and Worry

Friday, March 21, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Anxiety

   

Ever wonder why we stay up all night worrying about a big project or the first day of school? How could just thinking about something make us so anxious? 

Turns out that instead of starting from scratch, Mother Nature tends to use spare parts when developing new systems.The evolution of our brain is no different.

Reduce, reuse, recycle, people. Mother Nature says it's "In"....  continue reading

Don't Mess With Mama: Lactational Aggression and Postpartum Protectiveness

Monday, March 17, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under General

Were you hyper-alert or easily angered in the postpartum period? There may be a very good biological reason.

Lactational Aggression--also known as "Momma Bear Syndrome"--is not just an anecdotal phenomenon. 

For those who have not experienced this, it's less "Damn, you spilled coffee on my favorite shoes," and more "Look at my kid and I will mutha fucking cut you."...  continue reading

Mistakes Your Brain May Be Making: How Anxiety Can Cause Love

Friday, March 14, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

According to Sheena Iyengar, Columbia University's leading expert on decision making,  the human brain is fraught with ways for things to get a little mixed-up. Like love and fear. Which is awesome because it's another reason for S&M and sexual role playing to be written off as a normal biological experience.

Bring on the handcuffs....  continue reading

How Memories You Can't Remember May Be Affecting Your Mental Health

Monday, March 10, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under General


Pre-language learning.

I'm not talking about that period in the morning when the kids are jumping on your back, you can't form a coherent sentence to save your life and it's a freakin' miracle when you finally figure out how to sputter, "Coffee." This other kind of pre-language learning happened long before you understood what coffee was.

Perish the thought. 

Pre-language learning might be an additional part to intuition, and it matters for anxiety responses....  continue reading

How To Stop Intrusive Thoughts: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Thought Replacement and Visual Substitution

Friday, March 07, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Treatment Techniques

Thought replacement is one of the most widely-used techniques in cognitive behavioral treatment. It is also one of the most self-explanatory techniques under the cognitive behavioral umbrella. What you do is...replace your thoughts. 

This is often easier said than done, especially when you have a set of scary thought patterns or negative self talk cycles that have become persistent over time. People who experience the same thoughts over and over again have a more difficult time with replacement, simply because the thoughts tend to become a part of their daily experience. Thought replacement aims to change that by encouraging a different response when the automatic pattern begins. 

Let's check out an example....  continue reading