Why What We Know About Male Sexual Jealousy May Be Wrong

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships


According to psychologist and researcher Dr. David Buss, jealousy looks different across the sexes1.

Of course, we already knew that.

We've all seen The Bachlorette. We've watched the Housewives of Atlanta scream and fight because their partner paid too much attention to another woman at a party.

We've also heard the news stories about some guy opening fire on his best friend for sleeping with his wife. We may also be aware that, until its repeal in 1974, Texas law allowed men to shoot their wives if they were found in bed with another man (True story)....  continue reading

Can Similar Parents Cause Psychological Issues in Children? Assortative Mating, Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Obesity and Autism

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

Assortative mating--or marrying someone much like yourself--is a relatively new phenomenon. In generations past, marriage was often a function of factors like building relationships between families (think joining kingdoms), or for a dowry as opposed to similar dispositions.

Today, times have changed. We live in a computerized world of matchmaking, where we can seek and find those who are much like us with relative ease. Newer models of dating embrace "matching couples across 69 different personality traits" because everyone knows that those who are more similar are happier in the long run. 


Sharing certain ideologies or lifestyles may reduce later conflict between couples. But marrying someone with similar personality traits—and therefore similar genetics—may have unexpected consequences for younger generations for both heritable and environmental reasons. However, this doesn’t mean that anyone should necessarily avoid partnering with someone too similar....  continue reading

Self Esteem and Sex: The Link Between Marketability and Teenage Promiscuity

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships




Casual sex, or multiple sexual partners, is not something women are praised for. Indeed the insults flung at us are generally the most vile around sexuality. When we choose to engage in casual sex, we are assumed to be broken, to have low self worth. Because, “No self respecting woman would sleep with that many people.” Right? 

But things are not as clear cut as they seem. There are a number of reasons for such behaviors and this is a blog not a semester long course in human reproduction. If it were I couldn’t drop the F bomb nearly as frequently. But I digress. 

Don’t misunderstand me; some women do have low self esteem. Many of those women also tend towards higher rates of sexual behaviors, including more partners, and sex at younger ages. 

But all sex is not created equal. Let’s take a ride. (That's what she said.)...  continue reading

Fear of Commitment, or Striving for Independence? The Battle Between Autonomy and Relational Worth

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

We evolved to be initially leery of strangers. But over time, we grow to see those around us as parts of our group, an evolutionary predisposition to attach to another which would have been our greatest method for survival within our ancestral past. It is no wonder that we panic a little at the thought of being alone

But what happens when the commitment itself is threatening to us? 

We have all heard someone say, “Never again.” Never again will they count on someone, for life has taught them that others are not worthy of trust. Never again will they open up about their feelings for it only opens the door to pain. And many of them close off sooner because their earliest experiences reflected these notions as well....  continue reading

Why Hugh Hefner May Be On The "Wright" Track: Little Known Reasons That Polygamy May Benefit Women

Tuesday, October 10, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

Okay, so if you're all about the monogamous union for reasons other than personal choice, you may want to stop reading now. Because while hate mail is obviously fun, it's nowhere near as fun as polygamy. (Ba dum dum, ching.)

Let's be clear up front: I am not advocating for this arrangement, nor am I trying to promote it. There are even pieces of this particular issue that make me a little queasy. I see this more as a discussion of an interesting evolutionary argument--a mind bender, an article to explore a side of an issue I never before considered. Humans did not evolve to be specifically monogamous, but that's beside the point. Because according to Robert Wright, author of The Moral Animal, there may be a liberal feminist argument for polygamy1....  continue reading

"I Hate Him." How to Make Marriage Work

Tuesday, June 13, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

“We used to be so happy.”

“He’s not the same person I married.”

“I just don’t…know anymore.”

You’ve been together a little while, huh? At first it was perhaps just a physical issue, a lack of attraction, of sexual desire, especially after the kids. But now it’s more than that. You see that the things you once found endearing are super annoying. 


“Did I just step on a fucking toenail clipping?”

But it’s more than passing annoyance. You think that perhaps you have outgrown your partner, that maybe he stayed the same while you gleaned what you needed and matured. Why are you still there with all this stress? You don’t want to stay only for the kids, do you? And yet, you must have been into him at some point. Maybe you could be again. But do you even want to?...  continue reading