Cognitive Behavioral Techniques: How To Use Research to Combat Scary Thoughts and Magical Thinking

Tuesday, June 28, 2016 by Meg   •   Filed under Treatment Techniques

When I suggest research as a treatment for anxiety, sometimes people look at me like I have three heads. I do not believe in my inherent ability to sprout extra heads, based on my extensive research on the subject. Therefore, I assume that the looks are because some individuals are not big fans of looking stuff up once they get out of school. 

It isn't just the research itself. Many people do not like the idea of exploring their deepest, darkest fears because they are afraid of what they will find. Many are worried that they will find out their scary thought is true. 

But what if it isn’t?...  continue reading

"I'm Fat, and You Don't Love Me": How Early Attachment Insecurity May Cause Eating Disorders

Tuesday, June 14, 2016 by Meg   •   Filed under General

We've talked a lot on this blog about depression. Anxiety. Trauma. Social issues. Motherhood. Self Harm. It's about freaking time we got around to eating disorders. 

I'm not interested in telling you a bunch of stuff you already know, things you've already heard. It's easy to say, "These are the behaviors these conditions encompass, so stop doing that." And unfortunately, people who have no idea what the fuck they're talking about use phrases like this regularly.

But it ISN'T THE FOOD. Eating disorders are not about meals. They're usually about control. And those issues start young, sometimes before you've mastered the use of a knife and fork.   

Attachment has become a catch phrase used to describe an evolutionarily relevant parenting style. But this isn't about today's children. This is about the kids today's women used to be. Because early attachment plays a role in bodily dissatisfaction and eating disordered behavior....  continue reading

"Don't Have Children!" Busting Myths About Bipolar Disorder and Motherhood

Tuesday, June 07, 2016 by Meg   •   Filed under General

It starts as soon as we get married, sometimes at the wedding reception.

“When are you guys going to have kids?”

It’s like a cult, this motherhood thing that we are pressured to join at the first possible opportunity. We’re told that we will forget the pain of childbirth, that we won’t even miss our old activities. 

LIES! ALL LIES! I’d love to see the day I completely forget squeezing a wriggling, screaming  turkey out of my vagina. 

But there is a division between this outside pressure and the experience of some women, particularly in the case of bipolar disorder. While we hear, “Come join us,” peppered into even the most mundane conversations, these women often hear, “Danger!” because their physician told them they should avoid pregnancy.

And it tears them apart....  continue reading

How To Cope With Intrusive Thoughts: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Putting Aside Time to Worry

Thursday, May 26, 2016 by Meg   •   Filed under Treatment Techniques

“Just stop thinking about it. Get over it.” 

If you hear this often from the people around you, tell them to screw off. Because I’m here to tell you that refusing to think those scary thoughts might be a huge mistake from a mental health standpoint. Instead of supressing them, you need time to focus on them. 

But why the hell would anyone put aside time to focus on scary thoughts, especially if they are not currently anxious?

It's not masochism. It's a part of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. And there may be a solution that allows you to put off scary thought patterns without the side effects related to suppression, while improving your perception of control over your thoughts. 

Let’s take a ride. We’ll start with the bad news....  continue reading

FAMISHED: Everyone's hungry for something. Some are more famished than others.

Tuesday, May 17, 2016 by Meg   •   Filed under Books


GET FAMISHED HERE

What readers are saying about Famished:

"Thrilling, emotional, and depraved, with twists and turns you don't see coming."  ~Kristen Mae, Beyond The Break

"Fearless, smart writing and a plot that will stick with you."  ~Beth Teliho, Order of Seven

"Famished is delightfully twisted and dark and emotionally difficult and fantastic. If you like a brilliant Stephen King style mind f*ck of a story, this book is for you."  -Nicole Knepper, Moms Who Drink and Swear

"Smart and suspenseful and completely twisted, full of multi-dimensional characters who aren't always on the right side of good--but you love them anyway. Or love to hate them." ~Mary Widdicks, The Mermaid Asylum

From the back cover: 

Starvation Takes Many Forms

Ash Park, a run-down suburb of Detroit, might not be the most idyllic place to live, but for Hannah Montgomery, it’s safe. At least, it feels that way until a serial killer starts dicing up women from the shelter where she volunteers. 

Despite the ever-present tingling at the nape of her neck, Hannah manages to convince herself that the killings have nothing to do with her brutal past—until her boyfriend is murdered in the same ruthless manner as the others. It doesn’t help that the police think she might have done it.

But the cops are right about one thing: Hannah is responsible. Because she knows who the killer is. Now she must face the fact that she brought a monster with her to Ash Park—and his appetite for blood is insatiable.

Everyone's hungry for something. 

Some are more famished than others.

GET FAMISHED HERE

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