Fear of Commitment, or Striving for Independence? The Battle Between Autonomy and Relational Worth

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

We evolved to be initially leery of strangers. But over time, we grow to see those around us as parts of our group, an evolutionary predisposition to attach to another which would have been our greatest method for survival within our ancestral past. It is no wonder that we panic a little at the thought of being alone

But what happens when the commitment itself is threatening to us? 

We have all heard someone say, “Never again.” Never again will they count on someone, for life has taught them that others are not worthy of trust. Never again will they open up about their feelings for it only opens the door to pain. And many of them close off sooner because their earliest experiences reflected these notions as well....  continue reading

Foods For Depression: Garlic, Ginger, and Juice

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Physical Health and Emotion

At the risk of sounding all hippy dippy, there are lots of foods out there that have healing properties. Some are brain cell protectant due to high levels of antioxidants. Some interfere with the regulation of neurotransmitters which has the potential to boost mood in a totally chemistry related way. 

And some foods do both of those things. 

So without further ado, let’s check out two very common, and very spicy, friends that may work to boost brain health. And I even have a sweet recipe for you guys to try. 

It’s a three-for-one today, people....  continue reading

"Dammit, Mother Nature!" Prepartum Depression and Misdiagnosis

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Depression

Postpartum depression (or Major Depression with peripartum onset) is not a separate disorder from prepartum depression in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual-V. And even though the official diagnosis states that the symptoms of postpartum depression should appear in the first four weeks after birth, most practitioners are aware that postpartum depression can start at any point from the time pregnancy starts to a year following birth. 

But this confusion with diagnostics leads to some very bad things, namely that some women who need assistance during their pregnancies don’t get it. Many don’t recognize that Major Depression can rear it’s ugly head during this timeframe and fuck up every baby shower and cake eating party you have planned while you are enjoying your ballooning waistline. 

This is perhaps why prepartum depression is not much discussed. Women don’t know it’s a thing. Some doctors don’t know it’s a thing. But it is. And when pregnant women are depressed they might need help in order to care for themselves and their bun in the oven. ...  continue reading

Watching Yesterday: How to Let Go of the Past

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under General

The tendency to live in the past is an evolutionary imperative. Without some focus on what mistakes were made and who hurt us, we would have been less likely to survive as individuals over the long term. 

But if focusing on the past is sucking the fun out of your current life, it might be time to let it go like an orphaned Disney character with a rare medical condition. Except as opposed to freezing your emotions (or your damn house) you have to figure out how to not give a fuck. 

But how to not give a fuck without swallowing feelings and inadvertently messing yourself up more?...  continue reading

One Critical Mineral For Mental Health That You May Not Get Enough Of: The Relationship Between Magnesium and Depression

Tuesday, November 14, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Physical Health and Emotion

Magnesium is the bomb for depression. Chocolate has it (and so does that chocolate cream pie on the Thanksgiving table). You're welcome. 

Magnesium is involved in a great many bodily functions including the absorption of calcium. It is also crucial for contractions of the heart muscle and may be related to heart issues including coronary spasm and heart disease. It even has the ability to relax smooth muscles of the body which make it useful in asthma reduction and blood pressure regulation. 

As if the physical benefits weren't enough to make you run out and grab some magnesium rich foods, a wide range of mental health processes can be altered by the absence of this essential element....  continue reading

Why Do Men Rape? Misogyny, Power, Safety, and The Evolutionary Benefits of Rape

Tuesday, September 12, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under General

First things first: UNDERSTANDING DOES NOT EQUAL ABSOLUTION. I am not in any way making excuses for rapists, nor do I believe that men should be punished less severely based on their histories. Hell, in my fiction novels, Detective Petrosky is pretty happy fantasizing about cutting off the balls of rapists as a general rule. I have also gotten many emails from readers about Jim in Famished--including thanks for that novel's detailed insight into what led him to become a monster. 

But I'm writing this post today because I have treated many rape victims. And one VERY common question tends to be, “Why?” Not only, “Why me,” but also: “Why would someone think this is okay? Why are they so hateful?”

These are valid questions that often keep women up at night. And these questions might have an answer. For some survivors of rape, knowing the answer sufficed in solving a mystery that in turn helped them heal because they understood it. For others it merely satisfied curiosity but had little bearing on their healing.  Either way, useful. At the very least, in shedding some light on it, we may be in a better position to reduce it in the future. And I would retire happily never having to treat another rape victim. (I can dream, can’t I?)

So let’s get into this....  continue reading