Mistakes Your Brain May Be Making: How Anxiety Can Cause Love

Friday, March 14, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

According to Sheena Iyengar, Columbia University's leading expert on decision making,  the human brain is fraught with ways for things to get a little mixed-up. Like love and fear. Which is awesome because it's another reason for S&M and sexual role playing to be written off as a normal biological experience.

Bring on the handcuffs....  continue reading

How Memories You Can't Remember May Be Affecting Your Mental Health

Monday, March 10, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under General

Pre-language learning.

I'm not talking about that period in the morning when the kids are jumping on your back, you can't form a coherent sentence to save your life and it's a freakin' miracle when you finally figure out how to sputter, "Coffee." This other kind of pre-language learning happened long before you understood what coffee was.

Perish the thought. 

Pre-language learning might be an additional part to intuition, and it matters for anxiety responses....  continue reading

How To Stop Intrusive Thoughts: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Thought Replacement and Visual Substitution

Friday, March 07, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Treatment Techniques

Thought replacement is one of the most widely-used techniques in cognitive behavioral treatment. It is also one of the most self-explanatory techniques under the cognitive behavioral umbrella. What you do is...replace your thoughts. 

This is often easier said than done, especially when you have a set of scary thought patterns or negative self talk cycles that have become persistent over time. People who experience the same thoughts over and over again have a more difficult time with replacement, simply because the thoughts tend to become a part of their daily experience. Thought replacement aims to change that by encouraging a different response when the automatic pattern begins. 

Let's check out an example....  continue reading

Do You Know The Difference Between Guilt, Shame and Regret? Here's One Way To Reduce All Three

Monday, March 03, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Psychology of Motherhood


Guilt, shame and regret are similar emotional experiences. However, there are subtle differences that matter for our mental health. While guilt and regret follow a similar path towards making us feel shitty, we may be even more receptive to shame in our current overly connected state.

Shame = just one added bonus of Pinterest...  continue reading

Playing Dead: A Physical Response to Stress Besides Fight or Flight

Monday, February 24, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Anxiety

I occasionally come across cases of misdiagnosis due to a misunderstanding of anxiety responses. Some are convinced that they have a seizure disorder, others believe they have a nerve issue that causes paralysis.

But, anxiety is not all about running from a tiger or beating the crap out of an alligator. Humans have another trick up their collective sleeve: the freeze response. This is caused when something tells the brain that the threat is too big to run from or fight off, essentially that there is no hope except to play dead.  ...  continue reading

The Internet Mistake You Don't Know You're Making (and why it might cause social anxiety)

Friday, February 21, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Anxiety

Social anxiety, or social phobia, involves intense fears related to social events, like meeting new people or giving speeches. While most people have some nervousness in new social situations, those with social phobia may experience panic attacks or anxiety so intense that they will avoid the situation entirely. 

It's the difference between feeling butterflies in your stomach when going on a first date and calling to cancel said date because you spent the last three hours throwing up just thinking about it....  continue reading