One Critical Mineral For Mental Health That You May Not Get Enough Of: The Relationship Between Magnesium and Depression

Tuesday, November 14, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Physical Health and Emotion

Magnesium is the bomb for depression. Chocolate has it (and so does that chocolate cream pie on the Thanksgiving table). You're welcome. 

Magnesium is involved in a great many bodily functions including the absorption of calcium. It is also crucial for contractions of the heart muscle and may be related to heart issues including coronary spasm and heart disease. It even has the ability to relax smooth muscles of the body which make it useful in asthma reduction and blood pressure regulation. 

As if the physical benefits weren't enough to make you run out and grab some magnesium rich foods, a wide range of mental health processes can be altered by the absence of this essential element....  continue reading

Why Do Men Rape? Misogyny, Power, Safety and The Evolutionary Benefits of Rape

Tuesday, September 12, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under General

First things first: UNDERSTANDING DOES NOT EQUAL ABSOLUTION. I am not in any way making excuses for rapists, nor do I believe that men should be punished less severely based on their histories. Hell, in my fiction novels, Detective Petrosky is pretty happy fantasizing about cutting off the balls of rapists as a general rule. I have also gotten many emails from readers about Jim in Famished--including thanks for that novel's detailed insight into what led him to become a monster. 

But I'm writing this post today because I have treated many rape victims. And one VERY common question tends to be, “Why?” Not only, “Why me,” but also: “Why would someone think this is okay? Why are they so hateful?”

These are valid questions that often keep women up at night. And these questions might have an answer. For some survivors of rape, knowing the answer sufficed in solving a mystery that in turn helped them heal because they understood it. For others it merely satisfied curiosity but had little bearing on their healing.  Either way, useful. At the very least, in shedding some light on it, we may be in a better position to reduce it in the future. And I would retire happily never having to treat another rape victim. (I can dream, can’t I?)

So let’s get into this....  continue reading

REDEMPTION: An Ash Park Novel (#5)

Tuesday, September 12, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Books

GET REDEMPTION HERE

“Smart, grisly, and unflinching…don’t forget to breathe.” 

~Beth Teliho, award-winning author of Order of Seven

"O'Flynn weaves another masterful tale of desperation, destruction, and ultimately, redemption. The Ash Park series should be everyone's next binge-read." 

~Andra Watkins, NYT bestselling author of Hard to Die
 
"Absolutely riveting." 

~Kristen Mae, bestselling author of Red Water

 

From the Back Cover


ASHES TO ASHES

It’s been five years since the Looking Glass killer terrorized the streets of Ash Park, leaving a trail of dissected victims in his wake. 

Five years since the Looking Glass killer kidnapped Hannah Montgomery, a woman Detective Petrosky had sworn to protect—a woman who looked just like his murdered daughter.  
Five years of guilt-ridden nights Petrosky spent wishing he could find the balls to put a bullet in his brain. 

But when a call comes in from the police department in Hannah Montgomery’s hometown, Petrosky must re-evaluate all he knows to be true. Could the killing of Hannah Montgomery’s father be connected to the Looking Glass case?

What he finds is the most shocking revelation of his career, one that tangles past and present in an inescapable web of deceit. For the Looking Glass killer isn’t the only sadistic butcher he needs to find—the man who raped and burned his daughter alive is still out there, taunting him with the bodies of other victims. And the cases are too closely connected to tease apart.

Now Petrosky must holster his grief to track the man who destroyed the only good thing he’s ever done.  

And when Petrosky goes, he’s taking that bastard with him.

GET REDEMPTION HERE

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Why Can't I Sleep?! Hyperarousal and The Three Types of Insomnia

Tuesday, August 08, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under General

Insomnia may be a byproduct of our evolution. I assume this is due to the fact that, as a mom, mother nature was up all night anyway checking on children and getting in some last minute “me time”. Or perhaps, more likely, we are more prone to arousal than to sleep for survival purposes. We can rise and become aggressive or anxious in moments as anyone who has awoken to a loud noise can attest. But we calm down slowly. Only those at the top of the food chain can rest during the day in plain view. 

Cocky ass lions. 

We need to be pickier about our rest than lions. Always have. This might be why circumstances and mental state need to be aligned in order to sleep. And depending on what forces are acting against you, you may treat the issue differently. Because trouble falling asleep, trouble staying asleep and broken sleep tend to have slightly different treatments, though there is some overlap. 

First things first: what needs to be in place for us to rest? I mean besides your husband NOT poking you for sex?...  continue reading

Can Zinc Deficiency Cause Depression? How Food Can Trigger Major Depressive Episodes (and what to do about it)

Tuesday, July 11, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Physical Health and Emotion

Zinc is an essential element for both physical and mental health, though it is often overlooked. Zinc builds proteins, encourages immune system health and assists with the creation of DNA.  It also acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain, carrying messages to and from cells, a vitally important function for all internal processes. 

But not everyone gets enough of this nutrient. Zinc deficiency is thought to effect 20% of individuals worldwide, and more in less developed countries4. And being deficient in this element may trigger a number of physical symptoms as well as anxiety and depression....  continue reading

"I Hate Him." How to Make Marriage Work

Tuesday, June 13, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

“We used to be so happy.”

“He’s not the same person I married.”

“I just don’t…know anymore.”

You’ve been together a little while, huh? At first it was perhaps just a physical issue, a lack of attraction, of sexual desire, especially after the kids. But now it’s more than that. You see that the things you once found endearing are super annoying. 

“OH DEAR GOD WHY DOES HE CHEW LIKE THAT?!” 

“Did I just step on a fucking toenail clipping?”

But it’s more than passing annoyance. You think that perhaps you have outgrown your partner, that maybe he stayed the same while you gleaned what you needed and matured. Why are you still there with all this stress? You don’t want to stay only for the kids, do you? And yet, you must have been into him at some point. Maybe you could be again. But do you even want to?...  continue reading