Why Do Men Rape? Misogyny, Power, Safety and The Evolutionary Benefits of Rape

Tuesday, September 12, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under General

First things first: UNDERSTANDING DOES NOT EQUAL ABSOLUTION. I am not in any way making excuses for rapists, nor do I believe that men should be punished less severely based on their histories. Hell, in my fiction novels, Detective Petrosky is pretty happy fantasizing about cutting off the balls of rapists as a general rule. I have also gotten many emails from readers about Jim in Famished--including thanks for that novel's detailed insight into what led him to become a monster. 

But I'm writing this post today because I have treated many rape victims. And one VERY common question tends to be, “Why?” Not only, “Why me,” but also: “Why would someone think this is okay? Why are they so hateful?”

These are valid questions that often keep women up at night. And these questions might have an answer. For some survivors of rape, knowing the answer sufficed in solving a mystery that in turn helped them heal because they understood it. For others it merely satisfied curiosity but had little bearing on their healing.  Either way, useful. At the very least, in shedding some light on it, we may be in a better position to reduce it in the future. And I would retire happily never having to treat another rape victim. (I can dream, can’t I?)

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REDEMPTION: An Ash Park Novel (#5)

Tuesday, September 12, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Books

GET REDEMPTION HERE

“Smart, grisly, and unflinching…don’t forget to breathe.” 

~Beth Teliho, award-winning author of Order of Seven

"O'Flynn weaves another masterful tale of desperation, destruction, and ultimately, redemption. The Ash Park series should be everyone's next binge-read." 

~Andra Watkins, NYT bestselling author of Hard to Die
 
"Absolutely riveting." 

~Kristen Mae, bestselling author of Red Water

 

From the Back Cover


ASHES TO ASHES

It’s been five years since the Looking Glass killer terrorized the streets of Ash Park, leaving a trail of dissected victims in his wake. 

Five years since the Looking Glass killer kidnapped Hannah Montgomery, a woman Detective Petrosky had sworn to protect—a woman who looked just like his murdered daughter.  
Five years of guilt-ridden nights Petrosky spent wishing he could find the balls to put a bullet in his brain. 

But when a call comes in from the police department in Hannah Montgomery’s hometown, Petrosky must re-evaluate all he knows to be true. Could the killing of Hannah Montgomery’s father be connected to the Looking Glass case?

What he finds is the most shocking revelation of his career, one that tangles past and present in an inescapable web of deceit. For the Looking Glass killer isn’t the only sadistic butcher he needs to find—the man who raped and burned his daughter alive is still out there, taunting him with the bodies of other victims. And the cases are too closely connected to tease apart.

Now Petrosky must holster his grief to track the man who destroyed the only good thing he’s ever done.  

And when Petrosky goes, he’s taking that bastard with him.

GET REDEMPTION HERE

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Why Can't I Sleep?! Hyperarousal and The Three Types of Insomnia

Tuesday, August 08, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under General

Insomnia may be a byproduct of our evolution. I assume this is due to the fact that, as a mom, mother nature was up all night anyway checking on children and getting in some last minute “me time”. Or perhaps, more likely, we are more prone to arousal than to sleep for survival purposes. We can rise and become aggressive or anxious in moments as anyone who has awoken to a loud noise can attest. But we calm down slowly. Only those at the top of the food chain can rest during the day in plain view. 

Cocky ass lions. 

We need to be pickier about our rest than lions. Always have. This might be why circumstances and mental state need to be aligned in order to sleep. And depending on what forces are acting against you, you may treat the issue differently. Because trouble falling asleep, trouble staying asleep and broken sleep tend to have slightly different treatments, though there is some overlap. 

First things first: what needs to be in place for us to rest? I mean besides your husband NOT poking you for sex?...  continue reading

Can Zinc Deficiency Cause Depression? How Food Can Trigger Major Depressive Episodes (and what to do about it)

Tuesday, July 11, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Physical Health and Emotion

Zinc is an essential element for both physical and mental health, though it is often overlooked. Zinc builds proteins, encourages immune system health and assists with the creation of DNA.  It also acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain, carrying messages to and from cells, a vitally important function for all internal processes. 

But not everyone gets enough of this nutrient. Zinc deficiency is thought to effect 20% of individuals worldwide, and more in less developed countries4. And being deficient in this element may trigger a number of physical symptoms as well as anxiety and depression....  continue reading

"I Hate Him." How to Make Marriage Work

Tuesday, June 13, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

“We used to be so happy.”

“He’s not the same person I married.”

“I just don’t…know anymore.”

You’ve been together a little while, huh? At first it was perhaps just a physical issue, a lack of attraction, of sexual desire, especially after the kids. But now it’s more than that. You see that the things you once found endearing are super annoying. 

“OH DEAR GOD WHY DOES HE CHEW LIKE THAT?!” 

“Did I just step on a fucking toenail clipping?”

But it’s more than passing annoyance. You think that perhaps you have outgrown your partner, that maybe he stayed the same while you gleaned what you needed and matured. Why are you still there with all this stress? You don’t want to stay only for the kids, do you? And yet, you must have been into him at some point. Maybe you could be again. But do you even want to?...  continue reading

HIDDEN: An Ash Park Novel (#4)

Wednesday, May 17, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Books

GET HIDDEN HERE

 

“Creepy and haunting, Hidden is a fully immersive thriller. I dare you not to devour it in one sitting!” ~Andra Watkins, NY Times best selling author of Not Without My Father

 

"Riveting, horrifying, and devastating, Hidden is a book you will not soon forget.” ~Kristen Mae, bestselling author of Red Water

 

 

From the Back Cover

He’s back.

Detective Edward Petrosky has always felt the pain of the world like a razor blade in his gut, even more so when he considers the killers who have escaped conviction. But he can’t let that stop him, not after a grandmother is found murdered on her front lawn, the victim of some machete-wielding psycho. 

The case is strange from the outset: no one heard a thing despite the public nature of the crime. An unknown child’s footprints cover the property without a trace of the kid. And a grisly discovery in the basement has the entire police force stunned. Nothing makes sense. Whatever secrets their victim had, she’d taken them, quietly, to her grave. 

But when another woman’s corpse turns up with a familiar brand on her ribcage, Petrosky realizes the horrible truth: a killer he’d thought was long gone from Ash Park has remained, lurking in their midst. And who knows how many victims this butcher has collected? For those he’s kidnapped, any day might be their last, imprisoned, unseen, with only their screams and a deranged lunatic for company.

Now Petrosky must risk everything he holds sacred to track the most sadistic killer Ash Park has ever seen, a man whose thirst for carnage extends far beyond mere bloodletting. But saving innocent lives will require an unbearable sacrifice. 

One from which he may never recover.

GET HIDDEN HERE

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